A slow culmination of ridiculous, beautiful, and ugly. Ugly? Yes ugly.
Just read the article Ish sent me about calling women “real women”, which is a term that makes me jerk and then super irritated.
In the article the problems with this concept — mainly the idea of “real women” is stupid and comes as the expense of devaluing other women — have already been touched on. I was just reading something else and that phrase was brought up again in a positive context, and then reminded me of that thing Jon Hamm said when he bashed Kim Kardashian. So much judgement on women’s bodies — especially when said judger thinks they are doing a service.
Well, you’re not. Just stop.
Personally, as a slimmer lady, I fucking hate this concept of “real women are ‘this’” because 9/10 I don’t fit it and it makes me feel like a pile of garbage. (why can women be so categorically labelled too?). Then this manifests in me scrutinizing every outside experience I have and trying to justify (to no one, to onlookers, to prying eyes) my actions. “see, I’m eating junk food!; See I ate my whole dinner!; See I’m drinking beer!” that’s not fun.
Yes, I know I am in that privileged category whose bodies are accepted and wanted by society — I know. But that doesn’t erase the fact that the outside pressures and stereotypes makes me feel awful and want to change my body from what it actually is. I don’t like going to the gym and have people say I don’t need to be there or give me sideways scoffs. (fact: I’m building [more] muscles to beat the shit out of patriarchy and assholes who tell me to smile)
Anyways rant over, but I will say this again: instead of categorizing women, telling them that if you have A it means B and if you are C it means D, you should just shut the fuck up. There is no concept of “real women” and in fact it just imposes the same standards as other labels for real women. So just stop. Leave women’s bodies alone and just let them be. We wouldn’t need to categorize women as “real” if we appreciated them (for more than their looks) in the first place.
So just fucking stop.
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